You must have heard a lot about finding self-love, learning to be compassionate towards ourselves, and building confidence. The astonishing thing is that we are born with it. It’s not something we can find outside; it’s all in. So, where did we lose it?
Step Away From What’s Holding You Back to Conquer The World
How come loving our own selves have become the most challenging thing in our lives? Why are we scared to own our imperfections or face life’s ups and down? Yeah! Because we are human beings, nothing we are born with will last forever. Neither your body remains the same, your mind nor your heart.
Neither your body remains the same, your mind, nor your heart. You have to protect things to keep them intact. Just like you take care of your skin to keep it healthy, you have to take care of your thoughts to keep them on the right track. Life hits every one of us in a whole different way.
And those experience shapes us into who we are and who we will become. But there is a magic trick you don’t know that can change your experiences; it’s true that you cannot change what’s coming. But you can definitely turn around how they impact you. Isn’t that what matters the most? So, what If your horrible event stops feeling so horrific? Does that even matter how horrible they are?
Redefine the Course of Feelings and Emotions
I am not denying reality, you cannot evade the feelings of hurt, betrayal, and love, but you can change how they impact you. They can break you or make you into a much stronger, invincible individual. For that, you have to redefine by altering how you think of yourself or respond to the situations that come to your doorstep. In this blog, we will learn how to move forward in life and step away from everything holding you back from living a peaceful life.
Keep a Check on Pessimistic Thoughts
What if people will laugh at me, judge me, dislike me, or disapprove of me? These are the common thoughts we experience whenever we attempt to do something we like or open up about something we want for ourselves. Most of the time, we are ashamed of wanting good things for ourselves.
Perhaps because we have been mistreated and exploited in life, we eventually learned to settle for the less. If there is something that holds us back, it is our own disbelief in ourselves. If you are too worried about what people will say, then it is you who is giving importance to their opinions. A better life starts with a better day, and a better day begins with a better thought.
And it’s your responsibility to shut down these pessimistic thoughts when they start to snatch your peace. One of the best ways to deal with it is to look at it with a positive view or confront those who hurt you, fight back, and reach a clear conclusion in your life over whatever issues you are facing instead of overthinking them and draining your energy. Once done, it’s to forget them. If you don’t learn how to move forward in life, even a tiny problem will have the power to ruin your whole day.
Try to Break The Hesitation
Reputation is such a fabricated imaginary bubble we associate with identity. What comes to your mind when we call the word “reputation”? Is it what everybody thinks of a person, how people talk about a person in his absence? Yeah, that’s when the fear of reputation and shame hinder our learning and growth. Our connotation for reputation no longer meant what you think of yourself.
We began to pay more importance to what others say or think about us. You are too hesitant to do even what you want for yourself. The moment you begin to drive back your priorities from them to yourself, you will learn how petty those issues were.
Try to break this hesitation by starting to speak up for yourself, owning to your imperfections, regardless of whether people approve of it or not. To find true authenticity, you must break the shackles of shame and reputation and present yourself to the world just as you are.
Be Compassionate Towards Yourself
Another factor that comes with hesitation is regret, which directly comes from failure. The fear of failure often causes people not to take the initiative at all. We think that the world would descend upon us if we failed to do something we wished for ourselves.
We feel like we are losers in everyone’s eyes. Take a pause, and think of everyone in your surrounding who struggles to become something, and sometimes they even fail to do what they want.
Do they look like losers to you? In fact, it doesn’t matter to them what you are doing; if you succeed in it, then well and good, otherwise people don’t even remember it. It’s only you who your dreams matter. Or perhaps, deep down, it’s you who look down upon yourself for not making it to it. Because we are always taught to be kind to others but never thought it when it’s our own situation.
Therefore, learning to be compassionate towards ourselves is as important as you are with people around you. In fact, it’s more important than that. Give yourself a second chance when you make a mistake, allow yourself to learn through your experiences, and move forward in life. That’s how you grow and redefine who you are.
Stop Dwelling on The Past
Focus on what’s coming rather than what’s gone. Most people fall into chronic depression because they make it their habit to reside in the past. Though memories are an essential part of being human, just like we can not halt emotions, we can not force forgetting things, but we can alter their course, how they flow into our head.
Else memories can leave you shattered, and you would not even realize how dead you become inside that your neglect the happiness that comes to your doorway. A traumatic past can indeed leave a lasting impact on you. In fact, I would be rude if we told someone to forget it; they can’t.
Yes, nobody can! If dealing with emotions would have been that easy, why would we be called humans? Instead of escaping flashbacks of the past, learn how to move forward in life and process those contained emotions.
Past experiences, it doesn’t only mean a traumatic incident or tragedy. Most people don’t have such tragedy in their life. Still, they are depressed for various reasons: the unending struggle to achieve their dreams intensely brewed feelings of being unloved and unimportant. Therefore, learning to address them is an important thing to move forward in life.
Conclusion
This blog shares a practice that alters the negative pattern in your life and helps you learn how to move forward in life while effectively regulating your emotions and turning them into positive energy. Right now, when you are reading this blog, you have 100 opportunities that can change your life.
But still, you are hesitant to put in the effort, even if you know you can do it. But deep inside, you are hesitant because of the rigorous process, piles of doubts, and endless pressure of defeat that comes with it. So what? Not taking up your chance does any good to you?
So why don’t we try for once and set aside everything holding us back? You have paid all dues, it’s time to lead a better life.
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